Here, we mean starting to go deeper into the question of who you really are. The people that have been fighting themselves for a long time, might have a hard time understanding which opinions and preferences are really theirs and which were adopted from other people.

Analyze these things:

1. What are your morals and values?
What do you believe is right and wrong, and why? Where do you stand on matters of ethics and other important questions? These are very complex topics and this is why the process of figuring out who you are can be time-consuming. As a result, you will know why you make certain decisions and why you believe the things you believe.

2. What are your preferences?
What music do you listen to when you’re alone in your car, that you previously would never have told anyone you enjoy? What type of movies do you get excited about when you see a preview for a new release? Which of your possessions are most valuable to you, and why?

To answer this question, you will have to read a lot of books and watch a bunch of movies. It might mean going to different types of restaurants and ordering new things or searching online for music in new and different genres. Trying new things that you never would have thought to try will allow you to form an opinion one way or the other, and it will also enable you to confidently tell people what you think about things when it comes up in conversation because you will have actually tried them with the intention of forming your own unique opinion.

3. Make a list of things you often do with your friends or people you know well. For each item on the list, think about what you actually like and dislike about that event or activity. Are there any things on the list that you participate in simply because “it’s what everyone else does”? Are there any activities or events on the list that make you uncomfortable, and why? In which situations or events are you most comfortable, and why?

4. What type of person are you? Are you an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert? Think about how your personality type affects your preferences.

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